My Story:

An Adoption Journey to Overcome Childhood Trauma

From Russia with a Challenge

May 12, 2016, marked a pivotal moment. In a stark Juvenile Courtroom, I faced the possibility of losing my son, whom I had adopted from Russia six years prior. This challenging day was a stark contrast to the cold, lifeless Baby Home where our journey began. It was a critical point that questioned my faith and beliefs but also ignited a determination for a better path.

The Beginning of a New Life

Our Moscow experience in February 2010 was more than just braving the bone-chilling cold; it was about bringing our two-year-old daughter and three-year-old son into our lives. Despite their developmental delays and the emotional scars from their time in a bleak orphanage, we believed our faith and love would overcome all obstacles.

Facing the Unknown: Childhood Trauma

We were initially unaware of the complex nature of childhood trauma. Our preparation classes didn’t fully equip us for the challenges ahead:

We discovered that conventional approaches, including those designed for children on the autism spectrum, were inadequate for our children’s unique needs.

The Turning Point

A pivotal question from the judge in 2016 sparked my resolve to fight for my son. Our journey since has involved:

I delved into neuroscience, adoption support, and various professional services, learning how to parent a child with trauma effectively. This journey has led to remarkable improvements in our children’s lives. Adoption is a path chosen by many out of faith and a desire to care for those in need. However, the unforeseen challenge of childhood trauma can be daunting. It’s not just about managing “overactive” or “bad” behavior, or navigating misdiagnoses. There is a way forward, and I’m committed to guiding parents on this journey, ensuring every child can live a life of purpose and significance as intended by God. Join our community of support, where hope and practical strategies pave the way for a brighter future for our children.